{"id":1451,"date":"2020-03-26T11:55:36","date_gmt":"2020-03-26T11:55:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lng.853.mytemp.website\/?p=1451"},"modified":"2020-03-26T12:00:39","modified_gmt":"2020-03-26T12:00:39","slug":"approval-addiction-and-the-best-compliment-ever","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/billyrhythm.com\/?p=1451","title":{"rendered":"Approval Addiction and the Best Compliment Ever"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

John Ortberg in his book The Life You\u2019ve Always Wanted <\/em>writes \u201cPsychiatrist David Burns notes that it is not another person\u2019s compliment or approval that makes us feel good; rather it is our belief <\/em>that there is validity to the compliment.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a drummer, I\u2019m complimented somewhat regularly with \u201cYou\u2019re a regular Gene Krupa\u201d or \u201cNice job Buddy Rich\u201d or something like that. John and Jane Q. Public know those two drummers, and so when they want to compliment a drummer, those names come up. Those compliments mean nothing to me. I don\u2019t think my drumming is anything like Gene Krupa\u2019s. He is not an influence in how I play. Buddy Rich? I\u2019ve said before that I\u2019m not a good enough drummer to carry his sweaty towels. He was a MONSTER player, but so far above me with his technique that there\u2019s nothing in me that\u2019s remotely sounding of Buddy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

One night I was playing a gig in Camden. It was a private party, a Christmas party I believe. BIG house. We played upstairs. At one point the host said to me \u201cYou sound like Shelly Manne.\u201d Now THAT was a compliment. There was VALIDITY to that compliment. Shelly Manne I HAVE studied. Shelly\u2019s name isn\u2019t going to be dropped randomly like Gene or Buddy or Ringo. Obviously this guy knows a thing or two about Jazz and Jazz drumming , and has the ears to know that there is some Shelly Manne <\/em>in my playing. There are things I do in my playing because of <\/em> Shelly. He is <\/em>an actual influence on my playing. And so, because of the credibility of that compliment, I remember it to this day. And it makes me feel good to know that at one point at least someone appreciated my drumming on a deeper level than say the way my Mom loves my drumming. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not much spirituality in today\u2019s post; it\u2019s mostly about drumming. But hey, let\u2019s praise Him with resounding cymbals. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n